Skyler Cooper
LGBT of Color Media Network
No on Prop 8
What is So Difficult for People? Why does it matter so much who is in my house, in bedroom? How could it possibly change anyone else's world whether I choose to make my life with a women or with a Man. What Difference Does it Make? I don't care or judge you for what you do in your house - in your bedroom, why do you have a Right to Judge Me.
It is Sad that this Gets to Be Voted On.. it is so humiliating really that YOU get to vote on what my life is to be and what rights I have in it YET I get no say as to how you run your life, who you marry and nor do I get any say on your "lifestyle" - how you raise your children or anything else in your private life... Really if You Do NOT vote No, I hope to have something on the Ballot Next year to VOTE you from a basic right... Consuming Your Thoughts with What I am doing in my bedroom, in my household, in my personal life is simply shocking to me... why do you care? And what is it Really that think it is I do that is so different than your Healthy - Honorable - Heterosexual Marriage.
I am a Person, I am a Business Owner, I am a Wife, I am devoted to men and women in my life that I care about, I help and love as many people as I can, I give and give and me being a Lesbian is the Only thing you Notice... I Just Don't Understand. I NEVER Will.
I heard that the Mormons have put Big Money into One Man - One Woman and to fight against us being able to be married. How could the Mormone Possible have a clue about One Man - One Woman, isn't that completely against what they go for.
We can pay taxes, we must obey the law.. but we MUST have different rights because our sexual experience does not Procreate, there are plenty of Babies in the world for one, and it is proven that Gay Parents are raising some pretty wonderful SMART children - and guess what they are NOT all gay.
It is Sad that this Gets to Be Voted On.. it is so humiliating really that YOU get to vote on what my life is to be and what rights I have in it YET I get no say as to how you run your life, who you marry and nor do I get any say on your "lifestyle" - how you raise your children or anything else in your private life... Really if You Do NOT vote No, I hope to have something on the Ballot Next year to VOTE you from a basic right... Consuming Your Thoughts with What I am doing in my bedroom, in my household, in my personal life is simply shocking to me... why do you care? And what is it Really that think it is I do that is so different than your Healthy - Honorable - Heterosexual Marriage.
I am a Person, I am a Business Owner, I am a Wife, I am devoted to men and women in my life that I care about, I help and love as many people as I can, I give and give and me being a Lesbian is the Only thing you Notice... I Just Don't Understand. I NEVER Will.
I heard that the Mormons have put Big Money into One Man - One Woman and to fight against us being able to be married. How could the Mormone Possible have a clue about One Man - One Woman, isn't that completely against what they go for.
We can pay taxes, we must obey the law.. but we MUST have different rights because our sexual experience does not Procreate, there are plenty of Babies in the world for one, and it is proven that Gay Parents are raising some pretty wonderful SMART children - and guess what they are NOT all gay.
So I beg of you VOTE No on Prop 8 - it is the Right Thing to Do.
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Suze Orman
We just want to give a hand to Suze orman for her courage, intelligence and paving the way for Lesbian Professional and Strong, and Gorgeous Lesbians EveryWhere.
Links to Suze' Coming Out awhile back.
In the Feb. 25, 2007, issue of the New York Times Magazine, financial guru Suze Orman revealed that she is a lesbian and has been with her partner, Kathy Travis, for seven years.
And just when you thought the celebrity news couldn't get any more personal or surprising. Boy, were we wrong. For some reason, Suze Orman, the world famous money guru, not only announced herself a lesbian to a New York Times Magazine reporter (that I can understand if one is asked and does not want to lie), but then went even further. She noted she's never, ever been with a man, and then labeled herself a 55-year-old virgin. I've been hesitant to blog about this only because I'm probably the last person who should comment on an adult's sexual admissions. But I do know some of you may want to chime in, so here goes.
Words have meaning. To be a virgin is not just to abstain from sexual intercourse with a man, but to remain completely chaste and pure. It’s no more accurate to say that a sexually active lesbian is a virgin that it was for Bill Clinton to say “I did not have sex with that woman” — and furthermore, it’s terribly dangerous to mislead young people like this.
Queen Latifah Marriage ?
After the state of California overturned a ban on gay marriages, many expected a rash of same-sex marriages to be scheduled in the state. On the celeb side of things, it seems that Queen Latifah will be amongst the first big stars to marry her longterm partner.
According to this week's edition of the National Enquirer, Queen Latifah plans to marry her partner of five years, personal trainer Jeannette Jenkins.
Queen Latifah has been very tight-lipped about her relationship with Jenkins, and told Ebony magazine in 2007 that she would not comment on the rumor that Jenkins was her girlfriend. She didn't deny it, she was just annoyed that she was asked.
“No comment on that at all. I’m done commenting on all that … It’s ridiculous, I know me and that’s all I need to know.
“And if the readers don’t know me, then that’s one part they aren’t going to get to know. Those are my people but they don’t sleep with me,” she says in a very even tone that is very consistent with her relaxed mood. “It feels so invasive. It’s the one thing I don’t think people need to know about.”
Full Article Here
http://www.clevelandleader.com/node/5706
http://fametastic.co.uk/archive/20080607/11711/queen-latifah-to-marry-girlfriend-of-five-years/
Ellen To marry
Well Gals are You Ready ? With the Marriage ban being lifted in California its good news for Lesgian Rights. My Partner and I have been Registered Domestic Partners for 12 years now out of Northern California. Its Time for the rest of the US to follow.
Links to Ellen Video
http://thinkprogress.org/2008/05/16/ellen-degeneres-announces-plans-to-get-married-after-yesterdays-court-ruling/
http://video.google.com/?ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tab=wv&q=ellen
Ellen Great Job
California Allows Gay Marriage
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Coming Out - Queen Latifah
IS actress and singer Queen Latifah coming out of the closet?
I, for one REALLY hope so. She is a strong and talented woman and is an asset to our community. If it is her than Awesome.
The story says, "WHICH big Hollywood actress is about to come out of the closet? She's been living with her girlfriend in a small town, where all the neighbors know, and the two are now engaged to be married." We WILL wait and See.
www.OutLesbian.com
I, for one REALLY hope so. She is a strong and talented woman and is an asset to our community. If it is her than Awesome.
The story says, "WHICH big Hollywood actress is about to come out of the closet? She's been living with her girlfriend in a small town, where all the neighbors know, and the two are now engaged to be married." We WILL wait and See.
www.OutLesbian.com
Is it almost 2008 and ....
I cannot believe that even in New York this can happen.
2 Arrests in Anti-Gay Beating of 'Top Chef' Contestant Josie Smith-Malave
Police say two women have been arrested in an anti-gay attack on a former "Top Chef" reality show contestant and her friends in Sea Cliff, on Long Island.
Nassau County police announced the arrests a day after victim Josie Smith-Malave's attorney said she had filed a complaint accusing investigators of not pursuing the case energetically enough. Police said at the time that an arrest had recently been made and another was imminent.
Nassau County police announced the arrests a day after victim Josie Smith-Malave's attorney said she had filed a complaint accusing investigators of not pursuing the case energetically enough. Police said at the time that an arrest had recently been made and another was imminent.
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Thoughts of a Rural Lesbian
Thoughts of a Rural Lesbian
I just feel that a small town holds you into being what they think you should. And even if you are, say a lesbian, anyway despite the gossip and the negative glances. You still may not dress how you REALLY want or have your hair as radical as you may like. A life of mediocrity, I guess you would call it. Where your dreams are in your head, your passion is secretly kept to your bed, and well, your appearance is status quo with no real direction.
Breaking Out of this MOLD, no matter how unfulfilling it may be, is for most simply an impossible and unbearable feat.
It simply is harder than it sounds, for me to Really carry ME beyond my room and out into their version of me. I can go among them, I can take the constant disapproval, with this I can stay positive, however, I find it almost impossible to radically be me on all levels I know myself to be, when just walking into a room, still in this day and age, makes the rooms mindless – idle chatter come to a halt.
And why, I ask, what is such a big deal that the local drunk – the town slut – the adulterine businessmen, the bank teller, and all the townies with secret lives must quit eating their breakfast in a crowded café and look at me and my partner with a quietness and a stillness that really is unmatched. Once, a waitress took such incredible note of the obvious reaction that she, herself apologized.
I am kind of tired of hiding parts of me, though I am OUT, without a doubt. Not even a mouse, does not know I am a lesbian in my small town. However, is that enough? If I cannot be me, the writer in me cannot burst forth, my healing abilities are closeted, and I wear my hair in a way they will understand. Even though that is impossible
All because being a lesbian, well that’s about all they can take for now, as a community and being a lesbian is a very small part of who I am.
I want to be a Good Strong Lesbian, and empower lesbians everywhere. I want to walk through their version of me and walk my path, unafraid of their eyes and their blather. I want you to be proud of you, and if I stand tall than, somehow it is winning one or taking one for the team, per say.
If I can take the chatter, the stares, the negativity shot from the eyes of sinners, and the constant inner disapproval that I can feel – even if I ignore – than maybe I am making the world a better place for all lesbians.
Lately, I wonder if me simply walking a half baked version of my truth to gain approval of some sort from those who are not even looking, is enough for me to call a life?
What if I did not live here, what if their eyes could not see me and I got them all out of my head? What if their disapproval was not even noticed and I laughed everyday, somewhere else without caring what they thought of me? Could I really do that? Could I really get them all out of my head, off of my bed, and out of my sight?
Though I know that no matter where I am, someone will have some kind of problem with what I may say or do, how I walk or dress, or who I seem to be. And someone will sling the negativity mud ball.
However, there is NOTHING quite like the ties that are wrapped around you in a small town where everybody thinks that they had some part in raising you and expect you to be a product of society that they can relate to, however impossible that may be, and somehow be proud of, even if they never tell you.
The ties are so tightly wound, that even when you move away, the town, the glances, the disapproval tries to live on in your head.
One wonders what would happen if I truly did give up their version of me and truly did walk into the person I think of as me when I look into the mirror in my mind.
My guess is in that place of mind, that place where they don’t have a clue what I do with my days or my nights, that I would than be my perfect weight, my heart would not be heavy on a daily basis for reasons I cannot quite make out, I would not be nervous at who I might see and what asinine thing they may say.
I don’t want to seem weak, I am not weak. And I do enjoy seeing the faces I have known for years. I mostly enjoy spreading cheer, and light and letting people know how great they are and who they can be. I like seeing some of the people I have known my whole life, however, it does not out weigh the binds I place on myself to live in a daily “sameness” forever awaiting an event that never happens.
Though I convinced myself it was the mountains I loved, the drama of humans has kept me off the trails and away from the high country lakes that I love so. And in this I ask is living in the mountains, enough to truly experience them in the way I see myself interacting in my minds eye?
I feel I live a life separate from myself. I have different blog accounts for my different levels of acceptance and almost to 2008 now and still being really OUT, seems impossible.
What if I let myself physical live in the mystical magical place in my mind and find that cabin that soothes my soul, spend my mornings with my lover in non-assuming embrace, and went for a kayak ride before the morning coffee looking into her eyes know that WE DID IT, we walked right through the fire they lit, and we walked right out of the mold they laid for us, and we truly became an us without anybodies version of who we should be left to keep us from truly experiencing joy and bliss.
And than in the afternoon, while walking under the large aromatic trees we would feel laughter, we would walk without burden and we would let go – truly let go – of what anyone ever needed us to be to make their life more comfortable. You and I, my lover, would laugh all day, a deep hardy laughing knowing that we Truly did Break the Mold.
I just feel that a small town holds you into being what they think you should. And even if you are, say a lesbian, anyway despite the gossip and the negative glances. You still may not dress how you REALLY want or have your hair as radical as you may like. A life of mediocrity, I guess you would call it. Where your dreams are in your head, your passion is secretly kept to your bed, and well, your appearance is status quo with no real direction.
Breaking Out of this MOLD, no matter how unfulfilling it may be, is for most simply an impossible and unbearable feat.
It simply is harder than it sounds, for me to Really carry ME beyond my room and out into their version of me. I can go among them, I can take the constant disapproval, with this I can stay positive, however, I find it almost impossible to radically be me on all levels I know myself to be, when just walking into a room, still in this day and age, makes the rooms mindless – idle chatter come to a halt.
And why, I ask, what is such a big deal that the local drunk – the town slut – the adulterine businessmen, the bank teller, and all the townies with secret lives must quit eating their breakfast in a crowded café and look at me and my partner with a quietness and a stillness that really is unmatched. Once, a waitress took such incredible note of the obvious reaction that she, herself apologized.
I am kind of tired of hiding parts of me, though I am OUT, without a doubt. Not even a mouse, does not know I am a lesbian in my small town. However, is that enough? If I cannot be me, the writer in me cannot burst forth, my healing abilities are closeted, and I wear my hair in a way they will understand. Even though that is impossible
All because being a lesbian, well that’s about all they can take for now, as a community and being a lesbian is a very small part of who I am.
I want to be a Good Strong Lesbian, and empower lesbians everywhere. I want to walk through their version of me and walk my path, unafraid of their eyes and their blather. I want you to be proud of you, and if I stand tall than, somehow it is winning one or taking one for the team, per say.
If I can take the chatter, the stares, the negativity shot from the eyes of sinners, and the constant inner disapproval that I can feel – even if I ignore – than maybe I am making the world a better place for all lesbians.
Lately, I wonder if me simply walking a half baked version of my truth to gain approval of some sort from those who are not even looking, is enough for me to call a life?
What if I did not live here, what if their eyes could not see me and I got them all out of my head? What if their disapproval was not even noticed and I laughed everyday, somewhere else without caring what they thought of me? Could I really do that? Could I really get them all out of my head, off of my bed, and out of my sight?
Though I know that no matter where I am, someone will have some kind of problem with what I may say or do, how I walk or dress, or who I seem to be. And someone will sling the negativity mud ball.
However, there is NOTHING quite like the ties that are wrapped around you in a small town where everybody thinks that they had some part in raising you and expect you to be a product of society that they can relate to, however impossible that may be, and somehow be proud of, even if they never tell you.
The ties are so tightly wound, that even when you move away, the town, the glances, the disapproval tries to live on in your head.
One wonders what would happen if I truly did give up their version of me and truly did walk into the person I think of as me when I look into the mirror in my mind.
My guess is in that place of mind, that place where they don’t have a clue what I do with my days or my nights, that I would than be my perfect weight, my heart would not be heavy on a daily basis for reasons I cannot quite make out, I would not be nervous at who I might see and what asinine thing they may say.
I don’t want to seem weak, I am not weak. And I do enjoy seeing the faces I have known for years. I mostly enjoy spreading cheer, and light and letting people know how great they are and who they can be. I like seeing some of the people I have known my whole life, however, it does not out weigh the binds I place on myself to live in a daily “sameness” forever awaiting an event that never happens.
Though I convinced myself it was the mountains I loved, the drama of humans has kept me off the trails and away from the high country lakes that I love so. And in this I ask is living in the mountains, enough to truly experience them in the way I see myself interacting in my minds eye?
I feel I live a life separate from myself. I have different blog accounts for my different levels of acceptance and almost to 2008 now and still being really OUT, seems impossible.
What if I let myself physical live in the mystical magical place in my mind and find that cabin that soothes my soul, spend my mornings with my lover in non-assuming embrace, and went for a kayak ride before the morning coffee looking into her eyes know that WE DID IT, we walked right through the fire they lit, and we walked right out of the mold they laid for us, and we truly became an us without anybodies version of who we should be left to keep us from truly experiencing joy and bliss.
And than in the afternoon, while walking under the large aromatic trees we would feel laughter, we would walk without burden and we would let go – truly let go – of what anyone ever needed us to be to make their life more comfortable. You and I, my lover, would laugh all day, a deep hardy laughing knowing that we Truly did Break the Mold.
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