I MIGHT BE A LESBIAN

THINK I MIGHT BE A LESBIAN ... NOW WHAT DO I DO?
A Brochure for Young Women Information written by lesbian youth for lesbian youth and young women questioning their sexuality.

What does it mean to be a lesbian?

Lesbians are women-loving-women. We are women who are sexually attracted to other women. We are women who may feel emotionally and spiritually closer to women. We are women who prefer women as our partners.

As lesbians, we are not alone. One out of ten teenagers is lesbian or gay. Many famous women in history were lesbians. Lesbians are teachers, doctors, lawyers, factory workers, police officers, politicians, ministers, movie stars, artists, mothers, nuns, truck drivers, models, novelists. You name it, we do it.


Lesbians are White, Black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, Jewish, Catholic, Protestant, Buddhist. Lesbians are rich, poor, working class, and middle class. Some lesbians are in heterosexual marriages. Some lesbians are disabled. Lesbians are young women and old women. You name it, we are it.

Lesbians live in cities and in the country. We are everywhere.

NOW WHAT ?

How do I know if I'm a lesbian?

Tips for your first lesbian sexual experience
First Time Lesbian Sex Tips for your first lesbian sexual experience
Theres a lot wrapped up in your first time lesbian sexual experience. Whether its your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal. Theres so much cultural hype about "your first time" and "losing your virginity." One thing is true, you never do forget your first time.

Heres some tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.

1. Get to know your own body. Before you can even think about turning someone else on, its good to know what excites you. Yes, Im talking about masturbation. Spend some time one-on-one with yourself. As you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, youll know where to touch her. And more importantly, how to tell her what turns you on.

2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but youre not as likely to do or say something regrettable if youre sober.

3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. Read up on lesbian safer sex and be prepared to bring the topic up with your partner. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community.

4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If youre ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? Theres a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it.

5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.

6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Dont got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. Theres so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.

7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what youre doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If shes doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.

8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. Thats okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.